I wear my heart on my sleeve.
I expect people to be just like me.
I give people second chances.
I look for the best in people and find it hard to see the bad.
I accept friends for what they are and I accept their bad points as well as their good because to me, thats what being a true friend is all about.
So because of these traits I have been accused of being two faced and fickle.
I make no apologies for giving anyone a second chance if I am able to and I have given many people in my life a second chance but never a third.
2011 I learnt many lessons about people.
They are not who they tell you they are.
They won't give second chances to anyone.
They don't accept faults in their friends.
It was a shock I can tell you!
I think the point I am trying to make is that I have been hurt beyond belief by people over the last year. People have turned out not to be the people I thought they were.
What do I do? Well..... those people have been cut from my life and will never be accepted in again.
I have learnt to toughen up with people and not accept what they tell me with my previous innocence.
But I tell you one thing!!!!
These experiences won't change me as a person. I will not become bitter. I will not become nasty. I will use it to grow as a person but at the same time I will protect myself.
Aaaahhh yes my beautiful Welsh friend ... (God given to help ME work through some hurt) ...
ReplyDeleteI find myself ... it's essential to allow myself to be vulnerable even if I'm bruised...it's crucial to be open even if I feel scarred ...it's important to forgive where possible but also to set my boundaries...Set your spiritual compass for only people who give your positive energy so the resentments don't fester inside you ...stay well ... xx
Don't you find that the bigger the life experience we have grown through the stronger that we become...the more sure of ourselves we are? In some ways it's an eye opener...not just about ourselves but the people around us.
ReplyDeleteThose who have shown their true faces to you -- those faces were always there but you are seeing them much more clearly and are less willing to overlook. And that's a good thing.
Those who have hurt you because of your improved vision -- jealous. It's usually the people who want us to feel less or who feel we ARE less that hurt us, when they realize our strength and that they can no longer hide their true natures any longer.
Love your spirit and your ability to separate the wheat from the chafe and say -- I've moved on. xo
Sara, reading this reminds me so much of myself.
ReplyDeleteIt has come to the point where I will not allow myself to get to close to anyone any more for the fear of being hurt or being used over and over again.
Going through cancer has made me stronger and I do not need these people in my life.
Sara, you are a good person...remember that!
(((Hugs)))
Jill.