The only consolation I have is an article in the Telegraph which says that argumentative teens are showing Independence and that its good because they will be strong enough to assert themselves.
Yes this article is encouraging - its great news for me as a parent but how on earth do I survive it?
This always being right, never admitting to wrong. Saying things in such an off hand and offencive manner and then wondering why on earth you are upset and/or shouting.
Am I alone in this teen V mum battle?
Is this a new era type of battle or has it always been like this?
I feel totally overwhelmed by it all. Its different to when they were babies, toddlers, children... all of a sudden they are almost fully grown with their own ideas and understanding of the world. No longer can you soothe them to sleep or distract them with outings in the pram or on the bus.
This change seemed to happen over night and I am struggling to deal with this new twist in our relationship.
I never ever thought I would become the shouting mum, the mum who doesn't understand, the mum who is always wrong.
Certainly at my time of life and after the ill health experiences I have had battling cancer for my life I didn't think I would have to deal with this sort of conflict.
On the plus side..... at least I am STILL HERE to deal with this conflict!
I had Cancer and a teenager at the same time too.
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I am trying to understand here. Is the teenager a step child? If so, I would suggest that you simply not argue with them. That is your husband's job. If your husband won't step up...well...you've got a problem. My husband did not. My step daughter hates me to this very day. My step son and I have a cordial relationship. Stepkids are tricky. If he is your own, well, you get used to them. It's not easy, but it sure isn't as hard as people make it out to be. You fight, you make up, you both grow and move on.
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